with respect to all – and with the understanding that this is PW’s sandbox and he sets the rules and I will stick to them…
This is the wrong way to handle trolls. Allowing them into any forum – especially survivors forums – is to guarantee upset.
The analogy you used in this example is not close to what happened – it would be better described as someone coming to an AA meeting and asking what alcohol is while owning a business selling it.
It is not at all that I would not wish to be polite to someone who is asking for help or, even just asking. As long as it is done honestly. This Carrie lied – pure and simple. She was asking a false question to set up people to respond, a classic trolling tactic.